My Red Tutu

This week’s prompt over at 52 Photos Project is Light in the Dark.  I love trying to capture the full moon!

Go over to the gallery, see everyone else’s photos and join in the fun!

Today I am celebrating my 45th Birthday.  I don’t feel 45 but really what does that feel like?  I’m in pretty much the best shape of my life, I have a great family, wonderful friends and I’m happy with this life.

Reflecting on this past year, I have spent a lot of time learning to enjoy being alone.  And for someone who is pretty social, that has been a challenge.  Of course I still love to spend time with friends and family, but its no longer lonely or scary to be alone.  I actually quite enjoy my company.

So today, I have no plans, no agenda, and nowhere to be.  I may spend time with some friends and I may not.  I like not knowing what the day holds.  I think its a perfect way to begin my 46th year here.

When recently asked to write a little blurb about myself, I struggled.  What do I say about me?  A 40-something, former Corporate drone who made a career change to a Pilates instructor…single, divorced, lives alone with her cat…I mean what does one write about themselves?

I took a class with the amazing Jen Lee about telling your story.  I remember telling Jen about my brother’s death and how I didn’t think that was my story, but she looked deep into my eyes and said yes, yes it is your story and you need to share it.  So I’ve been contemplating a book for a very long time and am still trying to figure out what that looks like.

But…back to my story.   I find it hard to come up with one or two lines to tell  it…sure its easy to tell people what you do for a job or calling but that’s not necessarily all that you are.  Then this morning as I was in that space between dreaming and waking, I thought we can choose to change our story…every.single.day if we want.  We have that choice.  We don’t have to stay stuck in the story of our past if we don’t want to.  Sure there are things we need to work through so we don’t repeat that story but it can be done.

So right now, in this moment, what is my story?  I’m just a girl in the world….

…to be continued.

I thought I’d jump into 52 Photos Project this week.  I’m not much of a pink person except when it comes to flowers.  Go check out the gallery and see all the beautiful pink photos and join in!

23 Years goes by in a flash and yet seems so long ago, a lifetime really.  I remember that day like it was yesterday, the tears, the sorrow, the screaming and profound loss.  Yet, so much living has happened since then.  In that moment, you wonder how life could possibly go on and yet it does and you laugh and cry, experience joy and sorrow, have fun and dream.  You travel and stay home, you hang with friends and spend time alone.  You meet new people and let go of some others.  You get married and divorced.  You move again and again trying to find that place to call home.  And through all of this living, you know that he is there with you.  Even though you can’t touch him, you feel his presence.  When you are questioning something and you ask out loud what to do, that familiar song comes on the radio and you laugh out loud and say thanks with glistening happy tears in your eyes.

You know that the love is and always will be there and even though his physical body is gone, his soul remains and is doing amazing work and that makes you smile even more.  And you are grateful to have had him as a brother.

I have been thinking a lot lately about how I am living this life.  I strive to be kind to everyone, even the cranky people because hey I’ve been there too.  I’ve been much more in tune to nature lately, and appreciate the birds singing their songs and watch them feeding their babes.  I like to watch the squirrels chasing each other around my yard.  I get teary every time I see a dead animal on the side of the road and wonder if they suffered greatly.

And then I start thinking about how we (as a collective) assume that we have more rights than animals to live here.  While visiting M and P last weekend, P started complaining about the rabbits living under the deck and how they were eating the plants and then how the geese were pooping all over the golf course and they really needed to do something to get rid of them.  I started getting really annoyed.  We cut down trees to build houses and take away the natural habitat for so many animals and then when they come hang out in our yards because they have nowhere else to go, we want to get rid of them there too.  We have exterminators come and spray our homes to get rid of bugs and we spray our yards to eliminate weeds.  I am guilty of freaking out and calling the exterminator immediately when I found a huge wood roach in my house last year and then the fleas.  Since then though I have not had the exterminator back.  I would rather have a few bugs then spray chemicals that could cause even more problems.  I’d rather take the spider outside then kill him because he’ll take care of some of the other bugs.  I will kill silverfish though because well they are really creepy!

I guess what I’m trying to say here is that I am being more mindful of how I treat all creatures, humans and animals, insects and arachnids.  Maybe if we start with the little things, like picking up an inch worm and setting him outside, then maybe we build up to taking that spider by its thread and putting him outside too.  There is so much value in all life, we all have a purpose here, maybe we should let the weeds and insects, spiders and squirrels, serve theirs instead of trying to figure out ways to get rid of them.  Then maybe just maybe we can extend that mindfulness to how we treat other people.

Oh I could have spent hours staring at the ocean, watching people and taking photos.  Instead it was a quick walk on the beach after a lovely brunch overlooking the ocean.  As we were seated at our table, my mother pointed out the window, and said, see there it is rolling in and out, it hasn’t changed. Maybe that’s why I find such comfort near the ocean, it is a constant.  Yes sometimes it will be rough and other days it will be smooth as glass, but it is always RIGHT THERE.